tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4478111891518270301.post7409338284039944311..comments2024-01-04T18:33:56.660-08:00Comments on What They Don't Want You To Know: Inter-racial dating and black women (part one)Sangranethhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08918834111368812957noreply@blogger.comBlogger69125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4478111891518270301.post-89536625006033794572008-01-21T19:39:00.000-08:002008-01-21T19:39:00.000-08:00"Stardusky said... To anonymous at 8:15, you can t..."Stardusky said... <BR/>To anonymous at 8:15, you can thank the nothing-but-a-black-man-brigade for that. What you see is a consequence of the cycle of devaluation of bw and overvaluation of bm in the black community, and the unwillingness of bw to venture out and expand their options. I am a member of various message boards, and I see way too many bw perpetuating stupid myths and stereotypes about bm supposed sexual prowesses and placing bm on a sexual pedestral. <BR/><BR/>If I were a ww, I'd be wanting to get with bm too. lol!! I'd ask myself, why would a group of women (bw) stick tooth and nail to a group of men (bm) and disregard their own personal benefits? There must be something fabulous about these men, if these women will save themselves for them in spite of these men's lack of loyalty toward them, right? <BR/><BR/>This is the issue being addressed in the piece written by Sangraneth. I sincerely hope bw as a group wake up and smell the roses."<BR/>_____________________________<BR/><BR/>You speak nothing but the truth. For WW, the BM is a myth which needs to be explored. But what I have noticed is that BM do not change their ways when they get with a WW. They still cheat, are unemployed, do drugs, act irresponsibly. But now they are the WW's problem. <BR/><BR/>Once the BW starts to date interracially, the WW will not be so enamoured with the BM. In fact, she may start to become overprotective of her White turf (ie. WM). She will be competing with the ultimate beautiful "forbidden fruit" (BW) who is now highly educated and a great wage earner. She knows that if WM begin to date and more importantly MARRY BW in high numbers then more WM will follow.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4478111891518270301.post-23207605873572566832008-01-17T01:40:00.000-08:002008-01-17T01:40:00.000-08:00So very true. My heart just breaks at what these p...So very true. My heart just breaks at what these poor babies have been through. BW, you are the best, and if BM are too STUPID to realize that, then let them have their precious WW, or whatever otther non-BW they want. They are NOT worthy of you. Please expand your options, and give us non-BM the chance to love and cherish you like you so deserve. <BR/><BR/>To the BW, in closing, let me say this: BW, I love you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4478111891518270301.post-83266605099045546142008-01-08T16:11:00.000-08:002008-01-08T16:11:00.000-08:00Thank you Maria. I will continue to write whenever...Thank you Maria. I will continue to write whenever I get the chance.Sangranethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08918834111368812957noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4478111891518270301.post-26805806583475128582008-01-06T18:35:00.000-08:002008-01-06T18:35:00.000-08:00please continue to write in your blog. I enjoy rea...please continue to write in your blog. I enjoy reading what you have to say...a lot of what you write has captured my feelings and experiences. it's actually kind of scary.Miahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08029184568713419706noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4478111891518270301.post-18483909030106961232007-11-30T09:00:00.000-08:002007-11-30T09:00:00.000-08:00Anonymous said: "This is not the case. For a lot o...Anonymous said: "This is not the case. For a lot of those black men the mere fact that those women are white is valuable enough to compensate for being fat and or ugly."<BR/><BR/>I'm not saying that black men LIKE overweight women. I'm just saying that black men are rejecting black women, not because of their weight, but because they don't like black women.<BR/><BR/>What you just said proves my point. You admit that many have the attitude that being white COMPENSATES for being fat or ugly, as if being a white woman is a positive thing as opposed to being a black woman. This indicates that these men think white women are BETTER than black women, that's why being white compensates for being fat or ugly, but being black doesn't. This is proof that above attractiveness, weight, and all other things, these men place more importance on skin color than all else, with white women on top and black women at the bottom.Sangranethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08918834111368812957noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4478111891518270301.post-54850198450235658692007-11-30T08:06:00.000-08:002007-11-30T08:06:00.000-08:00Sangraneth said..."Weight also has nothing to do w...Sangraneth said...<BR/><BR/>"Weight also has nothing to do with it. I've seen black men time and time again pass up on slim, decent looking black women in favor of fat, ugly white women. If weight were a factor, this wouldn't be happening."<BR/><BR/>This is not the case. For a lot of those black men the mere fact that those women are white is valuable enough to compensate for being fat and or ugly. So if the only white woman they can get is fat and ugly, they'll take her over a slim attractive black woman to get that whiteness. Women don't love short bald men, but a filthy rich short bald man will find plenty of willing partners, won't he?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4478111891518270301.post-1226507537732527782007-11-29T20:50:00.000-08:002007-11-29T20:50:00.000-08:00To anonymous who worried about his dating prospect...To anonymous who worried about his dating prospects<BR/><BR/>Have you been over to Classical One's blog? Where they are forever saying there are no white men around who want to seriously date black women. They are looking for you over there! Get yourself a blogger profile, and get over there.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4478111891518270301.post-44670985456217970992007-11-29T13:14:00.000-08:002007-11-29T13:14:00.000-08:00Anonymous said: "Also, weight is a factor. 70% of ...Anonymous said: "Also, weight is a factor. 70% of black women are overweight "<BR/><BR/>Weight also has nothing to do with it. I've seen black men time and time again pass up on slim, decent looking black women in favor of fat, ugly white women. If weight were a factor, this wouldn't be happening.Sangranethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08918834111368812957noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4478111891518270301.post-281228207398495272007-11-29T13:02:00.000-08:002007-11-29T13:02:00.000-08:00"Interracial dating by black men is not a primary ..."Interracial dating by black men is not a primary contributing factor and I will say that it is probably a very small factor. This is shown by the fact that the single rate for black men is roughly the same as the single rate for black women."<BR/><BR/>You seem to be forgetting about all of the "single" black men who are in relationships with white and other non-black women, often more than one at a time. Single black women on the other hand are often forced to share a black man or remain alone.Sangranethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08918834111368812957noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4478111891518270301.post-84078508386248717622007-11-29T09:36:00.000-08:002007-11-29T09:36:00.000-08:00The 70% single rate among black american women is ...<I>The 70% single rate among black american women is probably not news to most of you. I've heard countless discussions regarding this phenomenon and what might be causing it. While the startling number of black males who date inter-racially is acknowledged by most as a primary contributing factor, there are other consequences of black male interracial dating that I have not heard being discussed.</I><BR/><BR/>Interracial dating by black men is not a primary contributing factor and I will say that it is probably a very small factor. This is shown by the fact that the single rate for black men is roughly the same as the single rate for black women. Here are the major factors.<BR/><BR/>Divorce is a major factor. Roughly 30% of black women who are single are divorced. 10% are widowed. Thus, 40% of single black women are single as a result of losing their husbands. 60% of black women have been married. 70-75% will marry. There is a high divorce rate among blacks and that contributes to the single rate.<BR/><BR/>The greater tendency for black women to be single mothers is a major contributor. Having kids lowers a womans chances of getting married considerably (this when the biological father is not a prospect).<BR/><BR/>Also, weight is a factor. 70% of black women are overweight and studies have shown that an overweight woman is 20-25% less likely to marry than a woman who is not overweight. Many will try to cite the stereotype that black men like big women, but research has shown this to be exaggerated. While black men may be less turned off sexually by a women of greater weight, what one finds sexually arousing differs from what one views as a potential wife.<BR/><BR/>There are other factors, but IR by black men is really a non-factor.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4478111891518270301.post-6001630301885574372007-11-21T21:35:00.000-08:002007-11-21T21:35:00.000-08:00I should have mentioned this in my first post, Sag...I should have mentioned this in my first post, Sagraneth. I just wrote tonight about my prospects. What I wanted to add was this: is it any wonder that some of the black women who only date white men take advantage of their leverage percentage-wise and are bad actors? More plainly,a savvy sister knows very well how badly a white man wants her and she uses this. I know this is not the right forum for this but I lost a lot trying to finally win a woman I've decided after 15 years of encounters and much reflection is a psychopath--without conscience. She is notorious. Another woman I reconnected with last year is 42, highly intelligent, gorgeous, and has a good job. She says she wants to be married. Dates only white men. She has been proposed to half a dozen times in the last two decades. They're all in the dust.<BR/>As for the cheerleader piece, I think it's quite obvious what's more at work: old-fashioned racism. I've brought up this phenomenon with white male friends and it hasn't occurred to them. Just watch how the cheerleaders are viewed by the camera operators and directors. Beautiful black women will be swiveled by so we can go to commercial with the lasting image of the blond. The best looking women on the field are ignored or slighted by the mostly white production team. They don't think--or would never want wider America to get a hint--that they are taking note of black female beauty, and you should, too. It's so funny: If you dropped down from Mars and saw this juxtaposition of busty blonds kicking their heels over dusky males crashing into each other on the turf you wouldn't know what to make of it. What a country.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4478111891518270301.post-58406591896313354542007-11-21T20:58:00.000-08:002007-11-21T20:58:00.000-08:00Yours is an interesting point of view and set of f...Yours is an interesting point of view and set of facts. It makes things more clear for me. But look at it from my point of view: I am a 43-year-old white man who has ended a 13-year marriage to a black woman. My history has been to be with only black women. I want to love a black woman; I want a black woman to love me. <BR/>I have put myself in this box of being basically unavailable to most women, and then it is only a tiny minority of black women who will date outside their race, or consider me in particular, for whatever reason. It is illogical at the very least, narcissistic possibly as well. The sense of guilt about my outlook is kind of unavoidable.<BR/>I'm an educator. I keep in shape. I have one child. I'm not wealthy.<BR/>What are the prospects for me, from a market perspective?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4478111891518270301.post-91471252053656744032007-11-20T14:56:00.000-08:002007-11-20T14:56:00.000-08:00To anonymous at 8:15, you can thank the nothing-bu...To anonymous at 8:15, you can thank the nothing-but-a-black-man-brigade for that. What you see is a consequence of the cycle of devaluation of bw and overvaluation of bm in the black community, and the unwillingness of bw to venture out and expand their options. I am a member of various message boards, and I see way too many bw perpetuating stupid myths and stereotypes about bm supposed sexual prowesses and placing bm on a sexual pedestral. <BR/><BR/>If I were a ww, I'd be wanting to get with bm too. lol!! I'd ask myself, why would a group of women (bw) stick tooth and nail to a group of men (bm) and disregard their own personal benefits? There must be something fabulous about these men, if these women will save themselves for them in spite of these men's lack of loyalty toward them, right? <BR/><BR/>This is the issue being addressed in the piece written by Sangraneth. I sincerely hope bw as a group wake up and smell the roses.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4478111891518270301.post-3088468007005024742007-11-17T08:15:00.001-08:002007-11-17T08:15:00.001-08:00You say that the two groups who are most enamoured...You say that the two groups who are most enamoured of black men are black men and black women. You left out a third important group - white women.<BR/>Increasing numbers are involved with black men, many would like to be and even more entertain fantasies (rarely admitted to white males - never goes down well for some reason....)about what it would be like to be with one.<BR/>BTW in case you are wondering - I am a black female and almost everyday I am party to conversations in which ww salivate over black men or a witness to scenarios during which these ww do not hesitate to approach bm or make it clear to them that they (the ww) are available.<BR/>From the regular loving black male/white female relationships, via the booty call types right down to the mandigo experiment(black stud hiring services out to middle aged married, well-to-do white women)- white women can also add their group to the black male fan club.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4478111891518270301.post-38479299653389868292007-11-06T14:17:00.000-08:002007-11-06T14:17:00.000-08:00Daniel said...Well, what about those black men wit...Daniel said...<BR/><BR/>Well, what about those black men with college degrees who get passed over by black women who want either thugs or white guys. If a black women is educated and kind of preppy, she wants a white man. If a black women is ghetto, the thug will be the father of her children.<BR/>------------------------------------------<BR/>Well, the same thing could be said about black men too. After getting that college degree and a well-paid job, they want someone nice on their arm and "at their level". Not to say all black men do this, but a few because there's still a handful that still love black women and vice versa. <BR/><BR/>Guess you forgot about the environment that he/she grows up and what kind of people they grow up with too. <BR/><BR/>At the same time, we've got to stop blaming each other and admit that we have preferences that just isn't for the white men, it's for all colors!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4478111891518270301.post-21471678928861760902007-11-04T10:53:00.000-08:002007-11-04T10:53:00.000-08:00Well, what about those black men with college degr...Well, what about those black men with college degrees who get passed over by black women who want either thugs or white guys. If a black women is educated and kind of preppy, she wants a white man. If a black women is ghetto, the thug will be the father of her children.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4478111891518270301.post-48815239351532478472007-11-01T14:53:00.000-07:002007-11-01T14:53:00.000-07:00"Yes, Micheal is in love with me, I'm his first wh..."Yes, Micheal is in love with me, I'm his first white devil love. "<BR/><BR/>Stop it. You're making me jealous. <BR/><BR/>LOL!Sangranethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08918834111368812957noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4478111891518270301.post-88107985599181932242007-11-01T11:08:00.000-07:002007-11-01T11:08:00.000-07:00"The one where you referred to him as a cockroach ..."The one where you referred to him as a cockroach and said white people were in league with the devil."<BR/><BR/>Yes, Micheal is in love with me, I'm his first white devil love. <BR/><BR/>Just kidding btw?https://www.blogger.com/profile/16834812675776638645noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4478111891518270301.post-77879305156246723412007-10-31T06:06:00.000-07:002007-10-31T06:06:00.000-07:00Sangraneth, it appears you broke Michaels heart an...Sangraneth, it appears you broke Michaels heart and he went off to cry to his mammy enabler, like a little boy. His mammy mother has now written a long post attacking your person.<BR/><BR/>i will not post the link because they are all just foolish over there. You would expect more of a woman who claims to be christian and litters her posts with scripture. but she is as shrill and vitriolic as they come. <BR/><BR/>i need to take a wash anytime i go there, there are just not enough things on earth for that woman to rip apart. Her blog is just mired in negativity, and that voice on the blogradio, lord have mercy! She sounds like jezebel herself!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4478111891518270301.post-38604644181470909662007-10-30T06:34:00.000-07:002007-10-30T06:34:00.000-07:00sangraneth it appears that "one of the Black Blogo...sangraneth it appears that "one of the Black Blogosphere’s leading Black Nationalist critical essayists and theorists" as he likes to be described, couldnt 'best' your arguments so he resorted to mud slinging and casting aspersions. Very sad given that this is but your 3rd blog entry.<BR/><BR/>I shudder to think that there was a time that we bw were held captive by their pea-brained arguments. God will just have to forgive us!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4478111891518270301.post-86553457729674548242007-10-30T04:32:00.000-07:002007-10-30T04:32:00.000-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Sangranethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08918834111368812957noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4478111891518270301.post-54503492936535335352007-10-29T20:27:00.000-07:002007-10-29T20:27:00.000-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12411605336236778174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4478111891518270301.post-46174312991580656442007-10-29T12:05:00.000-07:002007-10-29T12:05:00.000-07:00Michael, The only one that can lead you anywhere i...Michael, <BR/><B>The only one that can lead you anywhere is yourself.</B><BR/><BR/>We had a moment of agreement there! We agree that each person must find his or her own way to enlightenment, but I'm sure enlightenment means something different to you than it does to me. <BR/><BR/>But then you couldn't resist your baser troll instincts. My "Master"? That's truly sad, and telling, that the only relationship you can conceive of between a black woman and a white man is that of slave and master. We could never relate to each other in a context of mutual respect certainly not one of love. <BR/><BR/>You've made it rather obvious that your view of black women is that we have an inferior intellect. I don't think you see bw as equal partners with bm either, but having a black master is not problematic for you. Maybe that's why only 2 of the 14 images in the banner for your blog are of black women: Harriet Tubman and a naked Halle Berry. Apparently there are no modern day black female role models and the only thing that defines us is who we're sleeping with. Suddenly your beef with the IR blogs is elucidated. <BR/><BR/>So sorry for getting out of my place by interjecting myself into your conversation. I thought if it were meant to be private you would have emailed him. Also, you seemed not to mind on your blog when other people commented on the conversation you had with C-1. The one where you referred to him as a cockroach and said white people were in league with the devil. <BR/><BR/>I've already been to your blog and found all the answers to my questions. Oh yes, indeed.<BR/><BR/>Sorry to those who tired of this exchange before I did.YMBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01318697809065522585noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4478111891518270301.post-81785161026621504242007-10-29T09:17:00.000-07:002007-10-29T09:17:00.000-07:00michael said:,Well, I had been told of this brilla...michael said:,<BR/>Well, I had been told of this brillant white man. So I wanted to check him out. I'm always interested to find brilliance. I may learn something.<BR/><BR/>Now, about that Troll comment. Is that directed at me? If so, why do you see the need to insult me?<BR/><BR/>October 28, 2007 8:11 PM<BR/><BR/>Hey aren't you the same Michael that Evia has chased off her site who also posts as "Anon"?Gloriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01742619542367946642noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4478111891518270301.post-84834413524045285682007-10-29T05:38:00.000-07:002007-10-29T05:38:00.000-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12411605336236778174noreply@blogger.com